Sitting on the sofa here, the smell of a Christmas tree in the air, listening to my dog's wheezy snore, with her head warming my left leg, I suddenly felt lonely. Enough that tears slid down my cheeks before I really knew why.
If you love someone who loves you back and you are in the same room, lean over and give them a kiss. Remember how lucky you are.
Silly kid. You made me make out with my cat.
You need to get out of those depressing northern climes, and move somewhere with good Mexican food.
Posted by: wingsandvodka | December 09, 2004 at 11:25 PM
And a little reminder that you can feel utterly lonely surrounded by the people you love.
Posted by: Planethalder | December 10, 2004 at 04:58 AM
Loneliness is being with someone you love who doesn't love you back. This time of year is always reflective. It is December and we have this system of 'new years'. We do it with brithdays, 1st January, Christmases.. they are all "landmarks" that make us contemplate the past and make plans for the future.
Not having a boyfriend/girlfriend is made worse in December because of Christmas ad it being a family-time.
I am sure it is worse in America where this period begins a few weeks before Xmas with Thanksgiving. We want someone to snog under the Mistletoe, someone to buy naughty undies for (us).. I know this because I am lonely too.
Posted by: Monjo | December 10, 2004 at 06:28 AM
There's no reason to feel lonely though. You friend was there lying with you.
Posted by: | December 10, 2004 at 08:54 AM
Thanks for this post -- it brought me out of my fog of self-involvement. I've been incredibly grumpy and hard to live with for the last week (finals, holiday stress, financial anxiety, etc.). My husband has been very kind and patient with me, but I've spurned his efforts to console me. He's at the office now, so I couldn't actually kiss him, but I sent him your post, an e-mail kiss and an apology.
Posted by: SF Librarian | December 10, 2004 at 12:15 PM
We need our love and our hugs. Cats are good, dogs are good, husbands even better. Here's to not taking ourselves for granted XXOO
Posted by: Susan | December 10, 2004 at 07:07 PM
It is ok to feel alone.
We have those days
it is not a bad thing
Hug the moment
Posted by: b | December 11, 2004 at 09:30 AM
And appreciate the love of all the people who are not husbands/ girlfriends/ etc. but whom you can hug anyway. I think we have a tendency to over-focus on romantic love and forget all the other kinds out there.
Posted by: PG | December 12, 2004 at 04:53 PM
@ PG: Only the Mafiosi hug people that isn't their romantic lover. Them and silly women (who watched Friends) and New Yorkers. Assuming you are none of these I have contacted the FBI to bug your blog for criminal activities.
Posted by: Monjo | December 13, 2004 at 05:58 AM